The other day I was speaking with a guy I know. I’m not friends with him, it’s more every so often we exchange conversation. So he starts telling me how his daughter who is going into her senior year of college and just cam back form doing a semester abroad in Italy wants to move into an apartment off campus. Keep in mind this guy pays for all of it.
So he starts complaining that he’s not sure how he’s going to get all of her stuff there and that she wants to move her bed from home to the apartment. I said, ” Well, that’s not your problem. That’s hers. She should come up with the logistics and then just tell you the plan.” This guy got visibly irritated and as the conversation continued he just kept replying, “Well, you don’t have kids.”
No, I don’t have kids, but though his daughter is his kid, she is not a kid. She is 21. I know what 21 is, I was a 21 year old girl, I worked for years with people who were 21. I’m pretty fucking familiar what people in that age group are capable of doing. I wasn’t telling him that she should move it all herself, I was merely saying that he should not be stressed out about the how, the daughter should be supplying it.
At one point I said, “Does she have a friend with a truck that could help her out?” To which this retard replied, “I teach her not to depend on people.” I said, “Well she depends on you.” Of course to which he replied, “Well, you don’t have kids.” No, but what a shit life lesson, he is crippling this girl, she will always run to him for everything. It’s called a life, you should be able to depend on others and sometimes you get burnt and then you learn.
This exchange really irritated me because this man is the same one who complains about millennials being ill equipped for life, well who is making them that way? Dear Lord man, she’s is never going to be able to get things done if you don’t let her do it on her own. These people are creating the monsters and then bitching about their shitty creations.
He’s lucky I held my tongue and didn’t tell him the only reason he is like this with her is because he is overcompensating for his failed marriage to her mother.
But then again, I don’t have kids, so I just don’t know anything.